Written by Matthew Christodoulou
When we let go of ways of defining ourselves, in other words adhering to the stories we create an identity through, it opens up a whole new opportunity and playing field for how we can experience life. Because life isn’t meant to be rigid and that’s why it can feel so unnatural to follow rigid belief systems. It can be very inefficient and energy consuming.
We have created a long standing game of buying into belief systems attached to the definitions that we create and think that we have to stay this way because “it’s just the way it is” or it’s “normal” to do so. Some people even go as far as saying it’s natural. But when you really look at the bigger picture of the results that stem from it, we see separation, judgement, competition, domination, war, etc. in so many ways. It’s far from natural. It actually creates quite an imbalance from living a very free flowing and unattached life.
Deep down, everyone wants to be free. And when I say free, I mean to be living a life without limitation, a world of infinite possibility which in truth is our true natural creator state. It’s a state of true freedom beyond the stories of the mind and how we have programmed ourselves to experience life. As long as we are identifying with these stories that define us, we are limiting ourselves and our creative potential.
The key in moving forward is to really start observing ourselves and all of which we define ourselves as. We are all one, and it is the “I” that we hear in our minds that we have become identified with and use as a reference point to create our experience. The ego works in the same way a computer does. It takes in information from birth and stores it, from there it projects a reality based on this information of what it’s learned. It’s come to a point where it’s evolved into different fragments and has become self-learning as well. It’s also designed for protection and survival. So as long as we are identified with the ego, we will think that we are this information. We are the stories, and we need to protect ourselves and our identity and be living in survival mode.
Let’s take a look at some examples of the definitions that the ego plays with:
Identifications with our physical form:
– “I am Dick, Harry or Jane.”
– “I am a male or a female.”
– “I am the human body.”
Identifications within the family nomad:
– “I am a mother, father, sister, brother, cousin, aunt, uncle, etc”
Identifications through culture:
– “I am black, white, brown”
– “I am Canadian or American”
– “I am Muslim of Christian or Jewish”
Now these are just examples and there are many more that can be touched upon. But we can use these to look at them and reflect upon them within our own life experience and see how it resonates with us. There’s all sorts of belief systems attached to what it means to be a male or female. Judgements, expectations, categorizations, needs, etc. And this goes for all the other definitions as well. Do they need to be there and do we need to hold on to them? Absolutely not. As I said before, our natural state is infinite potential or without limitation. It’s not to be stagnant in any way and why stagnancy feels so uncomfortable for us. We are meant to be expansive. To play and create and be constantly expanding our awareness of self through the learning experiences that each of us have taken on through our lives.
Where we are at now is that we’re moving through a very powerful state of surfacing and releasing our belief systems so that we no longer are limited by our definitions of self and the way we think we need to function on the planet.
One might ask what exactly I mean by saying “moving through”. To clarify, this phrase actually refers to various levels of experience that are effecting us. It is on a mind, body, planetary and galactic level as our planet is literally moving through new energies within our galaxy that is effecting us on all of these levels. The magnetism of the sun is being effected and it in turn is effecting the magnetism of earth, and because everything is connected, it’s affecting our minds and bodies as well. But let’s just keep it simple for now as this information could go on to be another article itself!
With these new energies we’re experiencing, many of us are feeling right now a push to move forward. What is the ideal way to go about the transition? The key is neutral observation. Naturally, we are non-judgemental beings and see everything from a neutral viewpoint as we know that everything is just an experience when we have no stories in the mind defining it. This can be seen through children before they begin to take on belief systems adopted from people around them. Children are naturally free flowing in this way.
So when we experience something such as anger for example, enable yourself to have the experience fully but make a point of obviously not harming someone. If you have to hit a pillow or whatever go for it. Go into it and feel it and then afterwards take a step back and observe. Look at it. Ask yourself why you were angry and then look at what comes up. Was there an expectation or a judgement that caused you to react in that way? A need for control of yourself or others? This is what we need to observe. The stories are the programs of the ego. When we look at it and can see it with clarity, it loses power as the identification dissolves because we see it as just a story and not who we are. Who we are is the being observing the experience and once we see the story we then have the choice to let it go by not feeding into it. This is one of the most important things to realize in our journey of evolving as people into more loving, compassionate and peaceful beings. We need to come to understand that everything we experience internally is our choice. Some emotions can be more ingrained and powerful than others, but if you are able to let go of or overcome one, the same goes for all; it just may take a little bit more effort or practice to get to that space within yourself. It definitely takes effort and is something that is not supported through our early years, this is why the sharing of this information is so vital in these times so that we can understand exactly what is taking place and how to navigate through the changes as peacefully as possible.
As you begin to play with observation, the following questions may help to bring you to a balanced or neutral state after experiencing any emotions and can assist you with letting go.
“Am I serving myself and others involved or have I been repeating this experience?”
“Am I in fear of something or in a state of peace, neutrality and unconditional love?”
“Do I want to stay limited or be free with infinite potentiality?”