Note from the Editor: I had the pleasure of meeting this very talented writer Danielle a few weeks ago in a coffee shop here in Maryland. Danielle has joined our team of New Earth Media writers and will be another regular contributor. We will be sharing much of her wonderful work as she continues on her awakened journey to create, express, and help manifest a new and better world. I’d like to thank Danielle for her efforts and for getting involved with the New Earth Nation Community.
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A very wise and intelligent person once told me, “Danielle, it’s not about changing anything at all. It’s about becoming more of who you really are and always were.”
In this world of self-help books, life coaches, and people always trying to figure out who they are, or what and where they should be in life, I would say that this was one of the best pieces of advice that I ever received.
Psychologists suggest that many aspects of our personalities are formed and pretty much set in stone by the time we enter primary school. So, does that mean that we should carry our playground personalities right into the boardroom? Well, I would think yes and no. We formulate our socialization and negotiation skills very early in life, and those skills will help us to achieve a measure of success in our adult lives. Obviously, we continue to learn and grow aspects of our personality throughout our adolescent, teenage, and adult years. Reflecting though, those playground personalities do give us a lot of insight about our core values and interests, and ultimately what kind of adults we turn into.
So, what does becoming more of who you really are or always were actually mean? Well, what types of things did you feel passionate about doing as a child? In what types of things did you find it easy to excel? When you found yourself daydreaming, what were the consistent themes? What types of scenarios did you create during your playtime alone or your playtime with friends?
As we age, it seems that we grasp for some sort of stability instead of following the natural flow of life like we do as children. As children, we rely mainly on our instincts to guide us through life. As adults, we begin to feel that our “rational logic” (a.k.a. cultural expectations) is the most important guideline to follow. We begin to deny those inner voices, and instead settle for some type of existence that matches with those that are in our immediate circle, socio-economic class, church, or neighborhood. We try to “fit in” with the ones around us, to attach some sort of meaning of feeling, like we have a sense of belonging.
As my very wise mentor told me long ago, “Don’t force it. Let go. Follow the signs. They are everywhere. Just pay attention. Let life lead you. Follow life’s lead.” [ps. I love you, Rob]
You see, I’ve never really felt like I belonged, to any social circle or organized way of thinking. This has led me to become an active wallflower observer, of sorts. Although I am a very social person that loves to interact and share experiences, I still feel like I am the only one in my own “group” in a way. This feeling has led me to create my own path, although I’ve received stringent objections and negative remarks at times, from loved ones that wanted me to follow the “safe” path. As the recession of 2008 showed us, there really is no “safe” path. So many people lost lifelong jobs, forcing their once “stable” career path to crumble before their eyes. As I watched people panic around me (it seemed everyone was in a high intensity panic mode at that time), I watched so many people come up with out-of-the-box solutions and form a creative, entrepreneurial-type path for themselves. It was wonderful to see what types of brilliant concepts can form during a time of crisis.
Follow your dreams. Follow your bliss. Most importantly, follow your inner wisdom and create your own path, despite what others think. Continue to keep becoming more of who you really are, and ultimately, who you always really were.
“Follow your bliss and the Universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.” — Joseph Campbell
besitos :: danielleinthedisco
Here is a link to the original article: http://www.danielleinthedisco.com/life-lessons-2/becoming-more-of-who-you-always-were/