Written by Greg Paul
Sounds too good to be true, right? Well you can bet your bottom dollar that your deepest wounds will be mirrored to you at some point today, in at least some subtle way, so really it’s your simple choice of whether to own them; choose to see their origin; feel them; and transcend them today (or whenever they do next mirror back to you), or not…
The problem with healing our deepest wounds isn’t the wounds themselves – actually facing their deep and dark depths is not particularly hard, we just expect it to be, consciously or more usually subconsciously, so we create all kinds of stories – often layers of stories hiding layers of stories hiding layers of stories – so that, even when we have stepped up to the personal development plate (or we at least tell ourselves we have), we have created the perfect scenario for it to take a lifetime, or more, for us to peel away all the layers and get down to the root of the wound itself.
Well the purpose of this article is to tell you that this is a crock of shit and, just like crossing the self-realisation/enlightenment Rubicon itself, transcending your deepest darkest wounds will happen immediately following the point at which you decide to choose to do so, properly, completely, and to the exclusion of all your bullshit, meaning to the exclusion of EVERYTHING which is ‘personal’ to you or identified with by you. In fact if you really are true to your stated position of having stepped up to the personal development plate, then you aint gonna be able to hide from this fact much longer…
Really though, you need to see how, right? Well, all I can share with you here is my own experience, and hopefully a truly vulnerable display from me in that regard will have you facing yours today too!
So for me, as with everyone I guess, my last remaining wounds were very hard to see – my ‘approach’ to transcending all aspects of personal bullshit (ever since crossing the self-realisation Rubicon some years back) was to get out of the way and let the truth itself deal with things. Which I certainly stand by as the way to go, but evolution is a game in which we need to participate – it happens through us – so we need to own this as well. Anyhow, having allowed a great deal of my shadow and trauma to burn itself away in the blazing light of truth over the last few years, there had only been a couple of really deep and subtle wounds left – but they are the deepest darkest places that I had never before ventured; never before understood how to find… until only last year. And, as always, they related to childhood trauma – one ultimately being a mummy issue – pretty much the way it is for everyone I think!
So the first aspect of healing trauma is noticing how it expresses through you in the outer world. Mine expressed itself as a kind of ‘rush energy’ among other things. Not all the time, and not in a massive way, but there would still be times where I would approach an activity with a certain energy, in the heart, that carried with it a tension; the need or desire to rush or push. Accepting that the witness of this was so obviously pointing to a wound was the first step. Sitting with this, in a truly open an inquisitive way, was the second step. Noticing the first intuition that came to mind, and accepting the truth of it (in this case that it related to my mother), was the third step. Sitting with the sense of unexplainable sadness (or whatever other emotion may be inexplicably expressing itself), whilst being conscious of the events playing out in my environment which were acting as mirrors to show me the way, was the fourth step. Accepting the obviousness of the truth that those mirrors were a carbon copy of whatever the wound itself was, was the fifth step (in this case I was talking through what was arising in me with my love, and we were being constantly interrupted by her baby boy, who would always start screaming every time she and I were talking about anything really important or transformative. Observing the dynamic, he was so obviously expressing a feeling of abandonment by his mum… not that she was doing this, but he was simply picking up on me and becoming the perfect mirror. All of these things are here in our environment for us to see all the time and, when we do decide to commit to this kind of inquiry, they ramp up 100 fold to show us the way). Sitting alone and feeling into the truth that was now intellectually obvious was the sixth step. And crying my eyes out curled up in a ball on the bed was the seventh step! 10 intense hours start to finish – job done.
This is just one way of moving through such things of course – there are endless entry-gates to our shadow selves, so we can literally find our way to our fractured pieces in any moment. In the Sovereign’s Way Academy, we cover and lead people through many more.
In case it’s not already obvious, the wound that I refer to specifically related to the fact that I was abandoned by my mother. I’ll spare you the details, but really pretty much every one of us was abandoned by our mothers – barely anyone living in the western world has a truly developed capacity to feel; to expand their capacity for love to its ultimate heights, so they simply don’t have it to give to their children. And so, as I felt in to this there was obviously be no blame for any of this – quite the opposite in fact – it simply made me have a greatest sense of love and compassion for my mum, who had so obviously endured the same thing from her mum, and her mum before. This healing in me now so obviously represented the opportunity to heal an entire family line… and when I picked up the phone to tell her all this, it was with an even greater sense of love for the woman who brought me into this world!
As I write I have never felt so clean… after the whole self-realisation gig, I always described it as ‘dysfunctional enlightenment’ – you get it, and are beyond ‘the world’ so to speak, but there remains a kind of drag-factor of a human personality, which doesn’t have to colour the things you do any more, but is nonetheless a continuing limitation on the heights to which one may climb. Once we deal with the shit, everything that remains as part of a human personality feels like it is an expansive, enhancing, serving thing – it is a new lease of life… and a very cool one at that!
I wanted to share this story because I’ve never heard anyone express before just how easy it is to deal with this root stuff… we all like to over-complicate things, but the truth is that everything in life is as easy or hard as we decided it is. It doesn’t mean that everything is gone completely – you might, or might not, retain a sense of sadness for a while, but it does mean that NOTHING is hiding in the shadows controlling your life any longer. These wounds we carry are the greatest thing that is placing any continuing limitations on our journey, and the huge sense of lightness that pervades following their illumination is profound…
This, I can vouch for, is a fucking fantastic thing, so if anything shared here can help you receive that too then awesome! The red highlighted parts of this article are really the meat of the story here…
The bottom line is that if you are EVER still experiencing ANY emotion that falls into the realm of anger (which includes subtle frustration), or hurt, or suffering, or victimhood, or helplessness, or for that matter anything that is not at its core purely loving… then you’ve got some shit that you’re yet to see. Time to man up and get down and dirty!
It is of course, like everything in life, as easy or as hard as we choose to make it, and even then emotional healing is a big deal. To make it that bit easier, The Sovereign’s Way Academy offers a suite of tools, exercises, mentorship and a supportive community environment to embrace our wounded selves and harness its natural power. Take a deeper look and join the community
Much love
