To speak – and the use of words – is what differentiates us from animals, to be able to talk, to use languages and sounds with meaning to express ourselves. We talk to others, and even when we are silent, (as we don’t stop thinking) we are talking to ourselves. It is said that to pray is to speak to God and to meditate is to listen to him. Meditation is to make total silence in our mind, and as many confess, it’s not easy.
Our words have power, the strength of the decree. That is why we must take care of what we say. Every word that comes from our mouth will have an impact, the so-called butterfly effect. Each word must be said with consciousness. For many, this will be a difficult and even an uncomfortable exercise, but it is worth a try.
There is a biblical quote: In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God. John 1: 1-14. It says the creation started with a sound, a word.
For our words to get strong and have power, we must always tell the truth. Whoever tells the truth impresses in their voice the force to accomplish and become everything he or she declares. It is like accumulating substance, an energy that strengthens our words.
Who always tells the truth, materializes what it’s being said. The voice becomes so strong, that when he or she tells a lie, it is possible that it turns true. By principle and discipline, a long time ago I decided never to lie. I do try but it’s not easy. We may even not notice it, but if we pay attention, we are continuously telling small white lies for being kind, or avoid giving awkward explanations, for looking good, or not to hurt someone we care about.
Anyway, having the intention to always tell the truth, I have found myself forced to say some lies. For example, I didn’t want to hurt a client, refusing to pick her up from the airport. Suddenly I could not fulfill my offer because another new client requested a last-minute meeting that could represent a good business. How to tell a client, also my friend, “I’m sorry, I won’t be able to pick you up, despite offering to do so because later I accepted to meet with another client”? What I said was “I’m sorry, I cannot pick you up because my car was damaged.” Well… it happened that the next day, my car was damaged! And it happened again when I gave a friend an excuse not to go to her invitation. The real reason was I was so very tired, but instead, I told her I had a headache. What happens next? …I had a headache. I made my word truth, and my truth has become strong, so strong that it does not let me lie because what I say will turn into truth.
Now I take care. When I found myself writing a text message softening my arguments with white lies, I realize it is not necessary. I avoid arguments and just use the facts. Now I excuse myself without lies, and yes, sometimes using creative ways to explain myself without lying. In another article for the NewEarth University, I wrote about Clean Thinking. It’s the same with our word. It must be clean and clear.
Do “Economics” in What You Say
So many times we have already said something and we continue talking… repeating what we have just said. How many times in any discussion, especially those of a couple, they return and return and return to the same point? We may think they have not understood, or we expect a satisfactory response, even a look that never comes, and until it arrives, we keep repeating the same dialog – sometimes with other words, sometimes with the same. We must be aware of what we have said, and say it just once with the intention of being clear and not rhetorically unnecessarily. Of course, if we have not been clear we must develop an explanation, especially if the person has not understood us. But again, choose the words you are going to use, and choose slowly rather than quickly, with clarity. And say it well. Brief, direct and clear. I do not mean literature or poetry, because in addition, whoever writes will choose their words very well. I mean in conversations or expositions. Many times I see work presentations in which the person has used five or more words before the idea that they are attempting to show could be erased and said the same thing. It spins before reaching the idea as if the brain were a machine that needs heating. The thing is we have to make our words substantial.
Many of us have repetitive words, fillers you know, that we say, you know, to be able to spin our sentences, you know. As a university teacher, I was evaluating my students’ group presentations. One of the students began to expose and could not say more than four words without pronouncing “like that”. It was so repetitive that I interrupted and ask her to start again, and to please avoid saying, “like that”. What happened next was two minutes of silence. Literally, she was speechless. She could not say anything; she could not organize her thoughts without a “like that”. After two minutes, when she began to sketch an idea, ten or twelve words later, she had already said “like that” again.
When you are in a conversation, do the exercise to observe your interlocutor carefully, and notice how many words are not necessary, how many words are noise or waste. Let us be conscious and practice the economy of words, as if each word cost you, because it is so, words cost you energy, diffusing your strength.
Most of the time, we want to be heard. In some people it is evident that it’s as if they would like to hear their own voice. If talking is giving, which in fact it is; then speaking (and not listening) is like giving and giving and giving, i.e., being closed to receive. To receive is good. It’s very good. Giving and receiving is to be in balance. Listening enriches us. But sometimes it’s as if we wouldn’t want to listen. It is interesting to watch a person who only wants to talk, because deep down what he is looking for is attention, which in other words is to seek to be appreciated, admired or loved, without realizing that what he or she produces is the opposite, because their voice loses importance. By imposing itself, the exchange is being blocked. Listening to another person is what really makes us more lovable and appreciated. Listen respectfully with true and genuine interest. Listen with a body language that says, “I’m interested in what you tell me”. It’s something that I started doing with my clients, because I really needed to know what they wanted. Sitting at a meeting table, my body would bend forward and my eyes become attentive; and what I noticed from this was that I was making them feel comfortable with me, relaxed, and open to tell me everything – even sometimes about their lives.
It is important to present our ideas in a way that transmits security without doubts. This I have learned and practiced a lot as a publicist, writing communication strategies. For example, instead of saying “we could get …” let’s say, “we’ll get”, or instead of, “we’ll try to get there” let’s say, “we’ll arrive.” When we’re on a plane, the pilot does not announce: “At the moment I will try to land”, he says “We will be landing.” If he says he is going to try, everybody will be afraid because there is the possibility of failing and that is unacceptable in a landing, right?
This criterion has been very well developed by the NLP, Neuro-Linguistic Programming, based on the analysis of how the most successful people in the world think, discovering keys in the formulation of their ideas and how their way of thinking and talking helps them accomplish successful results. For example, instead of saying “I am going to look for” it is better to say “I will find it”. In itself, it puts us in a most favorable situation.
Pray with Merit
At the beginning, I mentioned that meditating is listening to God, and praying is speaking to him. I have heard many times praying and it is evident that people use words of memory learned, taught perhaps by priests in the ways that were spoken long, long ago. “Oh Lord, please bless these foods that you give us with your infinite goodness … You who live and reign forever and ever, Amen”. I have even heard prayers such us, “We know we don’t deserve this, so thank you Lord for your mercy”. The Lord does not want to hear “recordings”. The Lord wants to listen to us talking to Him as a friend, with real feelings and trust. He wants to establish a relationship with us.
Once a spiritual teacher who was pretty hard on me, told me something that hit me, saying that in a certain aspect of my life I was mediocre. This stroked me seriously and deeply affected me. I was going through a difficult moment, living many tough lessons at the same time – I was overwhelmed. I had to contain what I felt and left his house to go to mine in my car, but I couldn’t get there. I stopped on the road, locked myself and started to shout. I shouted a lot and very loud. It must have been 30 minutes of phrases said to Heaven, in which I emphatically demanded God and the angels to help me immediately. I did not say, “Please, I beg you, please oh please, help me, look at me with your merciful eyes and be sorry for me, for I am lost”. Au contraire, energetic and even angry, I complained loudly and clearly as I shouted how I didn’t understand why all of this was happening to me. If I was a good person and doing everything with love, then why was I still struggling with these situations? Until when He wanted me to continue like this and why. I strongly demanded an immediate solution because I didn’t deserve that. So I firmly asked, “Help me, now!”
Between the things that happened to me, one was to be very angry with someone important in my life, and because the events we lived, I was blocked and couldn’t hug him. It was very difficult for me, the physical closeness and contact. What happened after that night was that the next morning, the first thing I did – and I did it easily, spontaneously – was to hug him. And it was good, it was healing. And it was the beginning of a lot of my conflicts unraveling. By this, I do not mean that we have to be aggressive or offensive with our requests to God. But we can use our words being emphatic, demanding. If we have given from our part, we can ask what we deserve with energy, and with the right to receive it.
In my Latin culture, it is often used the “no sea malito”, translated as “do not be a little bad.” Everything is small, it is a loving way to talk. But treating a person like that, with diminutives, takes away energy and strength. That is another way of how we diminish our words’ strength. Even more so with our people’s names. I used to call my son Nicky (and in Spanish: Nickito, so he was even called a smaller version than just, Nicky). Now he is Nicolas. We also put two names to our children, and sometimes three or more, and that also diminishes the power of their name. One name is enough, concentrated and substantial.
Good Words vs. Bad Words
Masaru Emoto in his documentary Messages from Water, presented the case of a group of children in a kindergarten in Japan, who were asked to bring cooked rice from their homes. Each divided the rice into two portions and spent a week telling the portion on one side: “Good, you’re cute, I love you” and the other: “I hate you, you’re ugly, you’re horrible”. What happened at the end of that week is that the rice to which they spoke nice, kept white and with a good fragrance, and instead, the other turned black and stinky. That is the strength of our word.
There is a story about the Japanese generals in a meeting in which they planned the Pearl Harbor bombing. It is said that the meeting was about how many deaths the bombing will get, and the words death and dying were repeatedly said. The only thing they had on the table were some jars of water. They drank that water. When they left the place they were feeling very sick, so sick that they went to the hospital. The diagnosis was poisoning. How come? Was it the water that absorbs all of that deadly conversation? I believe yes. That was the only food they all shared. In Ho’oponopono there is a practice that we can do to absorb bad feelings and words spoken: Put a glass with 3/4 of water in the room. I used to do this in my business meetings when I knew there could be a discussion. The water absorbs the bad words. Of course, we must never drink that water! We can put it in the garden and nature will transmute the bad energy. You can also sleep with a glass of water covered on your nightstand; and, the same can happen if you have water (not covered) with the news on or near your TV. Please be careful. And please, always bless your food, as it is also known that its composition nutrients are improved by a blessing. You can neutralize any bad substance or energy in there, especially if you eat out, as you do not know what energy or feelings the person had who prepares your food.
When we talk to our plants, it is true that it has an effect on them, same with our pets, and with our children and loved ones. We must be very aware of what we are saying and how we say it. Even how we talk to ourselves. The movie, What the Bleep Do We Know, talks about how we often say to ourselves “idiot”, “ugly”, “dumb”. That definitely affects us. And still worse, many of us release strong words like “shit”. We don’t realize what are we exactly doing to us every time we say it. Do not forget that words are matter. We say bad words and we do not know what are we getting. But do this exercise: Every time you say a bad word, picture it, and picture its meaning. That could maybe stop you from doing so.
And, do you remember our body is 3/4 made of water? Our body is also absorbing those messages.
Talk to Your Body and Heal
We can talk to our body. For example, we can say to our knees (that hurt) that we thank them for serving us, for being there, for not failing, and we should apologize for mistreating them, for not being aware and not realizing what is needed, for not taking care of them by doing exercise. We can caress our body with love and in that process, we will feel a release. For therapeutics, it also applies to do this with a patient.
Finally, what is it to decree? It is to be specific and synthesize in a phrase the desired as a reality already given. We say for example, in face of a disease, “I am healthy”. And we repeat it like a mantra. There are more elaborate and extensive decrees that we can find, especially those of Louise Hay, called Positive Affirmations, and those of Connie Mendez. There are many on the web that we can find or we can even create our own. The important thing is to write positively, with gratitude, assuming that it has already been given. Also before a fear or negative event, we can repeatedly say “CANCEL, CANCEL, CANCEL”, to block something that we sense, or start and do not want to develop, e.g., from the flu… to the fear of war.
You will notice that in metaphysics many decrees repeat the same phrase three times. That is because they protect the physical body, mental body, and spiritual body.
We can give so much strength and value to our words that we can turn them into predictions and spells.
Develop the ability to always tell the truth.
Be aware of what you say.
Talk to your body with love.
Pray with merit.